Twin F lame
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Intimate Relationship Guides
Hello beloveds,
We are Angel & Michael. We have been on this crazy twin flame ride since 2003. However, we didn’t learn of the Twin Flame concept until 2015. We are both Reiki Masters, empaths and intuitives. Angel is a psychotherapist and medium. Michael is an addiction recovery specialist and spiritual guide. We are here to help you on your Twin Flame or Intimate Relationship Journey.
Any intimate relationship you have, by nature, affords a mirror into you by the reflections you receive from others and the ability to observe your own behaviors, thoughts, attitudes and actions. The journey in an intimate relationship is as much about you as it is the other or both of you.
Are you suffering any of the following?
Pain
Disappointment
Turmoil
Fear
Running
Longing
Feeling unseen
Feeling unheard
Inability to communicate
Scared to be authentic
Hiding your authentic self/voice
Feeling emotionally unsafe to be vulnerable
Frustrated with the lack of meaningful communication
We are here to help you identify and navigate if you are in a karmic, soulmate or twin flame relationship. Each of these relationships have a different purpose and thus are all navigated differently. We are here to offer clarity and insight into what may be happening to you and why.
We can help you build actionable steps to heal your inner wounds in order to show up in your relationship as the most whole, healed version of you. Knowledge is power and healing is the key to flourishing relationships and a peaceful heart and head.
Let’s work together to help you travel lighter through your relationship journey.
What is a Twin F lame?
The twin flame concept has been directly or indirectly pointed to in The Book of the Dead, the Vedic text called Shiva Purana, the Mahabharata, The Bible and The Book of Mormon. Each of these texts reference a different source for the creation of twin flames and slightly different origin stories but the main twin flame theme is the same.
One soul splits and life time after life time these two halves of the same soul try to find their way back to one another. Some theories propose that if the two halves are not incarnate at the same time then the non-corporeal twin becomes the spirit guide of the corporeal twin.
Your twin is unlike any relationship you have ever experienced! Let’s not dole out rainbows, unicorns and a perfect love story. This baby is dynamic, intense, spiritually rigorous and one hell of a truth mirror. There is nowhere to hide, obfuscate, run or tell half truths.
You think you have done the work? The spiritual self-reflective work? The shadow work? Just wait until you meet your twin and that is all thrown in your face times a thousand!!
W hat's the difference?
Twin Flame
Karmic Relationship
Soulmate
A karmic relationship usually has a great deal of push and pull with heaps of unresolved issues from a previous or many lifetimes together. The journey can be rocky, unsettling, filled with conflict and uncertainty. Karmic relationships tend to get the title of toxic relationships.
When the relationship ends, and the karma is hopefully cleared, you will have a very distinct feeling that your time involved with that person has come to end. As though you have finished a book and have closed the back cover once and for all.
A soulmate can be anyone in your life from your soul family. These relationships can be romantic, platonic, best friends or family. A romantic soulmate is on the journey with you to deepen your understanding of you, of love and learn self worth. A soulmate can be for a lifetime or just a season to help you through an experience.
Soulmates are comforting, familiar, easy to be around, emotionally safe and loving. The feel, the taste, the fragrance of a soulmate in your life is very recognizable and consistent.You’ll meet a soulmate and feel like you’ve known each other for lifetimes, because you most likely have!
Then there is the twin flame experience. The twin flame journey is the thorniest, most fragrant, rare and beautiful rose you have ever held and breathed into the core of your being. Your twin is the most stark glaring mirror that can trigger the ever living hell out of you. Forcing you to cope with your innermost hidden fears, insecurities and self worth issues. Simultaneously, your twin will become the greatest love story of your life. This is the stuff books are written about and movies try to portray.
Michael has had the experience of being in a long term soulmate relationship. Often Michael states that had someone told him of the twin flame phenomenon and explained the hallmarks of a twin flame relationship, he would have bet the farm that he was in a twin flame relationship. If you are in a soulmate relationship, you may think that you have found your twin. That is until/if/when your twin blows into your life, the flame ignites and sets the house on fire that you formerly called your life!
S tages of a Twin F lame Journey
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Longing ~ Looking for Your Other Half
This alone, we could speak about for hours from our own personal experiences. The longing, Angel's entire life, to have a twin. To have that kind of intimate bond, connection, entanglement. Angel lived her life feeling like there was a void, a hole inside her, an unquenchable thirst that no amount of water could satiate. It was revealed to Angel, later in life, that she was a twinless twin. Meaning there were two babies originally in the womb but only one at the 6 months prenatal checkup. Angel attributed her longing for a twin to be solely related to this new awareness. That is, until the flame ignited with her twin. That deep longing, that soul desire was quenched and made whole.
Meeting Your Twin
This introduction sticks with you because it is unlike any other. There is an unexplainable pull. Michael and Angel met when Angel was 6 months pregnant with her second child and happily married. There was an undeniable pull but we just chalked it up to meeting an interesting person. We were in each other's lives as friends over the next few years. All the while feeling “the pull”. This initial meeting can be so intense that it spooks one of the flamelets (what we call twins in the early stages) and can lead to one twin bugging out. No worries though, if it really is your twin, you absolutely will cross paths again.
Falling Dangerously in Love
That description, falling dangerously in love is NO JOKE!! Like we stated earlier, once the flame ignites, it sets the house on fire that you previously called your life! All bets are off. All contracts become opaque and all the rules seem to no longer apply to your previous life. The Notebook is one of Angel’s favorite movies. Wonder why? It’s only one of the greatest portrayals of a twin flame relationship. The push, the pull, the intensity, the obsessive thinking, the explosive romance, the years of separation and the eventual union of the unrequited lovers. What a crazy, thrilling, terrifying, fantastical ride!
Honeymoon, Bubble or Rose Colored Glasses
As with everything when it comes to twin flames, the experiences are on steroids! As the kids say these days, “It’s just extra”. The honeymoon phase is like falling in love for the first time X 1000 or 1111, if you're a die hard twin. The intensity, the highs, the magical connection, the physical sensations, the rose colored glasses during this phase! Your twin can do NO wrong. Please, remind yourself, what goes up must come down. And such begins the Turbulence or Turmoil Stage.
Turbulence or Turmoil Stage
This is where the stark difference between a karmic, soulmate and twin flame relationship really reveals itself. A karmic relationship can irritate you because you and that person can be discordant. Butting heads trying to resolve unfinished business and heal. A soulmate can trigger you and then help you grow through it. A twin, well that is the most unforgiving, glaring mirror there is. A twin will reflect back to you every, and we mean EVERY shadow piece and unhealed issue. Even if you have “done the work” to bring forth in yourself that which you thought was hidden, unseen and unhealed shadow work to the light. The twin flame reflection will find everything that has tried to stay unacknowledged. This is where the rubber meets the road in the twin flame journey. Every issue you ever thought you might have gets excavated and stress tested.
There is a myth out there that twins do not incarnate at the same time until it is their last lifetime on the wheel of karma. The myth states that twins have to be evolved souls to be able to come together in the physical realm at the same time. As much as that sounds douchey, living through this stage has shown us that there might be some truth to this. Angel has spent over 25 years studying metaphysics, including teaching Reiki, chakra classes, meditation classes, studying with two spiritual teachers for 10 years and completing a masters degree in adult mental health. Angel had to draw on every bit of those experiences and training to guide her through the self reflection needed to survive this stage. That and a very persistent twin who would not let Angel withdraw emotionally.
If one of you doesn’t high tail it out of the relationship in the first two stages, this is usually when somebody has a melt down and calls it quits. More often than not, the turbulent stage leads to the Runner/Chaser Stage. This is about the time you start looking for guides like us to process what the hell is going on in your life.
Run/Chase Dynamic or Separation
More often than not, somebody will decide to bounce. It’s a normal reaction to being overwhelmed and under prepared to face the avalanche that just landed in your lap. Hence, the common term Runner. We are not really fans of how this term has been thrown around but we get the reasoning behind the title. When one of the two twins has to pull away, the other (or both) feels like they’ve just lost a limb. Which in turn causes the one that did not leave to chase like their life depended on it. Thus begins the painful separation.
I’m sure you’ve caught onto the theme by now. A twin flame relationship is INTENSE! The glaring nature of this truth mirror, that’s called a twin flame relationship, usually becomes so intense that one of the two parties involved has to pull away. It takes a tremendous amount of self introspection to cope with all the intricate levels and layers the flame brings up. Issues brought up could be from familial issues, trauma, abuse, neglect, parental smothering or abandonment to past romantic woundings and traumas. It’s a crapshoot what this flame will dredge up.
Now for the bad news. This step in the journey usually takes time. It sounds cliche, and this is when each twin needs to move forward in life “doing the work” without their twin. What is “the work”? That would be working to heal all the reflections that came up during the Turbulence/Turmoil stage. All the things that became so emotionally charged that created the overwhelming desire to leave, get away from the pain or discomfort.
Buckle up, We are going to share some unpopular truths. There is no easy way around this step. You can’t manifest, get a million readings, beg, Law of Attraction, cast spells, pray hard enough or bargain your way out of this step. The only sane path is to let go. Let it all go and live your life the best you can while working on you. We promise you, if this IS your twin, then the universe will see to it that you cross paths again. In fact, we are not sure even the universe could stop you from finding one another again!
Yielding ~ Surrender
If you’ve moved on with your life, worked on you and forgotten that person you thought was your twin, fun fact, they weren’t your twin in the first place. You might move on; get married, get divorced, have kids, get a degree, move across the globe, experience great success or harrowing losses and still your twin is there in your heart and head. Eventually, you have to get honest with yourself….it’s always been them….your other half. The yielding, the surrendering to this absolute fact seems to set you on the path to reunion.
Reunion in Divine Timing
Ahhhhhh! Finally, whatever gymnastics had to happen to bring you and your twin face to face, “Houston, we have REUNION!” We experienced another honeymoon phase in the early years of our reunion. That bubble of intensity and new found love high lasted quite awhile. We still faced challenges. We hit turbulent waters but the guiding force moving forward was a deep gratitude for one another based in an unshakeable pull and draw to be whole in one another. Everything is more, deeper, meaningful, sacred. There is a peace in coming home to your other half.
Respecting the Flame
We have not heard anyone else on the twin flame circuit talk about this. There are three of you in this relationship. There is you, your twin and the flame. By brute force, we discovered that there is a certain amount of love and care that the flame demands. Here’s the fun part, the flame doesn’t come with a user's manual. This ride is literally trial by fire! In our experience, there is a certain amount of respect, deference, time, nurturing, transparent honesty and love that this Twin Flame experience demands.
We have both felt push back when we fall short of meeting any of these amorphous requirements. Push back in the form of physical manifestations such as shaking from the inside out, a tightness in our chest, feeling like you can’t take a full breath. Mental manifestations of ruminating, obsessive thinking, guilt because there is absolutely no room for anything less than 100% transparency and honesty. Emotional manifestations of an insanely deep need to be seen, heard, acknowledged and respected by your twin. When we have fallen short in any of these areas, the flame becomes demanding that we “right our ship” or else we suffer the consequences until we do.
As a mental health professional, Angel is well aware that this entire section sounds like it could be one big projection. As a way to project what sounds like unhealthy emotional co-dependency on this ambiguous thing that we are calling the flame. It sounds nutty. You’ve got no argument from us on that one. Repeated experience has shown us both that once we bare another layer of our souls, get even more honest, more transparent, more vulnerable then the physical, emotional and mental repercussions subside. What a ride!!
Experiences Unique to Twin Flames
Vibrating from the inside out when you are away from one another too long
Reading your twin regardless of distance, perceiving if they are awake, preoccupied, asleep, having a bad day. Michael suffered secondary traumatic brain injury symptoms due to Angel's traumatic bran injury while they were 1600 miles apart. Distance makes absolutely no difference on the connection, well besides the strain of being apart.
Mood swings that are either caused by the triggers that the flame lights up or you find out the emotions are your twins and not yours at all.
10 years age difference
Live geographically far apart
Separate for a long time before coming back together
Exceptionally intense pull toward that person
A deep vibration when you touch each other
Physical contact is damned near bliss
Sex rebalances the flame
Sex is much more than a physical act
Not our Wheelhouse
If you are looking for help regarding any of the following catchy twin flame promises or lingo then we are probably not the best flame guides for you. We encourage you to find others on the path more in alignment with your vision.
Runner/Chaser - how to end, speed up or avoid this phase
Divine Feminine/Divine Masculine
Awakened Twin
False/Counterfeit Twin
Want to know how to attract or keep a twin?
Why is my twin not talking to me?
What is our twin flame mission?
How do I manifest my twin or make them love me?
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We are here to walk this sacred journey toward wholeness with you.
“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
~ Rumi
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